People Helper Tools

Here are the notes and tools you need to help yourself and also to help others.  All documents are

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Allow

 

The number one question counselees tend to ask when a major problem or crisis strikes them personally or someone close to them is, “why”?  That’s a very normal response.  It is one of the first issues addressed in both the Old and the New Testaments.

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Allow 111214 .pdf
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Anger, Unhealthy

 

God-designed emotions are a gift.  They were designed by God at creation and they were declared “good.”  They add color to life like the multi-colored rainbow.  They can make life rich and full, but...

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Correct Unhealthy Anger LN 022908.pdf
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Circles Of Responsibility

 

The concept of “Circles of Responsibility” is one of the most powerful biblical tools for working through conflict in any relationship.  The principle of circles of responsibility is one of the ways of God for dealing with conflict.

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Circles of Responsibility 121715 LN.pdf
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Biblical Pattern for Reconciliation

What is the Biblical pattern for reconciliation?  Recognize and take ownership of all your sin and failures (and confess it as sin). Repent and change direction from your sin. Rebuild trust that you have destroyed because of your sin. Reconcile on the basis of healing from the hurts caused by the sin.

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Reconcilation, Biblical Pattern 112515 [...]
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Fair Communication Rules

 

Every relationship is bound to have conflicts which may include an argument or fight.  This includes churches, schools, businesses and families – sons, daughters, sons-in-law, daughters-in-law.

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What are Ten Fair Communication Rules 10[...]
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Forgiveness-Part I-Anger

 

View one aspect of anger as a benefit.  One of the common reasons anger is not viewed in any positive light is that there is so little written, spoken or taught from a positive perspective.

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Forgive-Anger-Part I 081215 .pdf
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Forgiveness-Part II - Revenge

 

One reason people find it hard to forgive is their deep desire for revenge for past hurts.   Feelings of the need for revenge can be the back door to bring about forgiveness.  What do you think is the relationship between revenge and forgiveness?. Can you have one without the other?  If so, how?.  Why do you think the concept of revenge is so deeply imbedded in the mind of man?

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Forgive-Revenge Part II 111214 .pdf
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Forgiveness Part III Memories

 

One of the hardest obstacles to forgiveness may be the feeling that “I am unable to forgive because I can’t forget.”   It is one thing to forgive, it is another thing to learn to live with the memories of the hurts we received or caused.  It is one thing to be forgiven and another to learn to live with the consequences of the hurt and damage sin has caused.

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Forgiveness - Memories Part III 111214 .[...]
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Freedom From Perfectionism

 

Behind many of today's domestic tragedies lies a socially accept­able behavior pattern that is overlooked by most, even Christians.  Most all long term emotional pain has been caused by this one negative personality characteristic.  There are few Christian qualities that get confused more than the qualities of diligence, excellence, sacrifice, and correctness as shown up in perfectionism.  Perfectionism is often commented on by others as an admirable trait.  These comments feed perfectionism in others.

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Perfectionism 100114 .pdf
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How God Uses Problems to Identify Needs

Most actions stem from a need whether real or perceived. In the garden of Eden, man's needs were met completely. After sin entered, a huge vacuum of unmet emotional and spiritual needs was created. Through a personal relationship with Christ all our basic needs that were lost in the garden are restored.

 

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Identify Needs 112816.pdf
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How To Deal With Unresolved Conflict With Parents

 

Mark: In and out of special schools for kids with behavioral problems; literally thousands of dollars spent on his rehabilitation; this kid was 17 when he came to Living Foundation Ministries for counseling. He was very smart but failing most of his classes.

Parents: Mother very controlling, critical, displayed little or no respect, always putting her son down, she had been a teacher and married a legal professional who was gone a lot. Mother and son fought verbally and sometimes physically. Dad finally rented the kid an apartment and lived with him. The son reported he hated his mother.

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Youth Survive in Adult World 022714 .pdf
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How To Gain Emotional Freedom

 

On February 1, 2003, the Space Shuttle, Columbia, disintegrated over Texas during re-entry into the earth’s atmosphere with the loss of all seven crew members, shortly before it was scheduled to conclude its 28th mission. Of all of Columbia’s debris that was scattered over Texas, Louisiana and Arkansas, the one thing officials wanted most to recover was the “black box” or flight recorder.
 
By analyzing it, they hoped to determine what went wrong before it blew up.  God has designed a “flight recorder” called the heart (lit. mind). All of life’s events, thoughts, emotions, are recorded there. Our task is to go inside the heart (core belief system) and determine what is working and what is not working and adjust or correct what is not working for us. Usually what is not working well for us is our negative emotions.

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Emotional Freedom 111114 .pdf
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How To Heal After Mate's Affair

 

There is no deeper wound in a marriage than an affair.  Adultery potentially undoes the ideal relationship that God designed for a married man and woman.  Gen. 2:29, “…a man should leave his father and mother and be joined (“cling”) to his wife and they shall become one flesh.”  Matt. 5:19, “.
 
Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate” (regardless of the culture or religion, not just Christians).   Marriage is a social institution designed by God.  It is not a Christian institution.

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How to Heal after Mate's Affair 021715 .[...]
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How To Heal From Religious or Spiritual Abuse

 

There are at least three basic realms of religious experience.  Two of these three realms are mentally, emotionally and spiritually harmful or abusive.  The realm of spiritual abuse is usually in mainline Christian groups.  They misuse Scripture to control people.

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How to Heal from Religious Abuse 03181[...]
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How To Live With A Self-Centered Person

 

Everyone has some selfish tendencies but they can be reasoned with and can come to a mutually agreeable conclusion. The extreme self-centered person (narcissist) is different.

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How to Live with a Self-Centered Person [...]
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How To Rebuild From Failure

 

It would be great if after we became Christians we stopped making mistakes, failing, sinning or living in fear of failing.  The sad reality is that we still sin, fail and make mistakes with family, kids, spouse, church, job and friends.

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How to Rebuild from Failure 012214 .pdf
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How to Respond to a Passive Angry Person

 

The overt angry person displays his anger openly; you can visually see and hear when he is angry.  The passively angry person can be just as full of rage but demonstrates it in covert, secret, subtle or devious ways.  He exerts his will passively.  He is full of anger but is not loud, harsh or ranting and raving.  His is a master at acting out his anger without the slightest hint of being agitated.

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How to Respond to Passive Angry Person 1[...]
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How To Use The Tool Of Journaling

 

DEFINITION: A writing process that spontaneously makes notes of selected significant past and present events.  It has been referred to as “an excellent way to begin having a relationship with ourselves for perhaps the first time”.  It is getting to know both the events and emotions of the past.

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Journaling 111214 .pdf
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Pornography

 

In the openness of the 1970s, pornography was viewed as harmless and even beneficial.  In less than fifteen years the number of rapes doubled.  64% of Christian men (in the church) struggle with sex addiction or sexual compulsion, pornography, compulsive masturbation, secret sexual activities.  25% had affairs (sexual intercourse), 14% had sexual contact short of intercourse.  25% have abused alcohol or drugs; one third have not reached out to anyone for help because of embarrassment.   Nearly every book in the New Testament commands us to avoid sexual impurity.

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Pornography
Pornography 031919.pdf
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Reasoning Behind Suicide

 

There are seven suicides recorded in Scripture. All seven were men. In Scripture, we do not find any judgments on suicide. It is viewed as an act of deliberate self destruction. 

 

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Reasoning behind Suicide 110507 .pdf
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Reducing Anger In Children

 

In a national survey of parents, 70% indicated that if they had it to do over again, they would not have children.  Why?  Parenting is painful.  It’s just plain tough
Reducing Anger In Children
Reducing Anger In Children.pdf
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Restoring Lost Identity

 

Three major losses took place the moment Adam and Eve disobeyed God and ate the fruit that He clearly told them not to eat. God warned them of the results if they did (Gen. 3:1-7). Satan instantly accomplished the biggest robbery in human history. By succeeding in getting them to sin, he stole their sense of personal worth, their purpose in life and their identity.  In the first century there were believers who attempted to get their identity validated by their association with certain people (I Cor. 1:12). God has restored the believer’s true identity, not through other people, but through his relationship with Jesus Christ (Gal. 2:20; Phil. 1:21; Col. 3:3).

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Restoring Lost Identity 082815.pdf
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Traps To Avoid When Choosing A Mate

 

Many couples who go for counseling have many personal issues that do not have anything to do with their mate. They brought these into the marriage and now these issues affect the marriage.

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Traps to Avoid 040115 .pdf
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Ten Counseling Tips

 

A compilation of ten counseling tips in abbreviated format

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Ten Counseling Tips w TOC 091310 .pdf
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What Are Five Basic Aspects of Biblical Counseling?

 

Most people believe that counseling is giving information to people. But biblical counseling involves at least five basic aspects.

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Five Aspects 111214 .pdf
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What Are Five Benefits Believers Have to Work Through Problems in Living?

 

One of the biggest surprises that face new and older believers alike is the reality that they will still experience many of the same problems that non-believers face. Couples who divorce or don’t divorce, argue over the same things.  This is a big shock for most new and mature believers because they may have been given the false idea that everything in their life would change for the good upon committing their life to Christ at salvation.

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Benefits 111114 .pdf
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What Are Four Characteristics of a Biblical Counselor?

 

There are two mental road blocks that prevent people from giving spiritual care to others. “Who am I to counsel others because I have so many problems myself?” and "I wouldn't know what to say." Marlin once told me, “I would like to be able to counsel others, but I have problems of my own to solve before I can help others.” Marlin thought he had to be near perfect before he could help others. So, if we don't need to be perfect to help others, what is God looking for? You might be surprised.

 

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Four Characteristics of Counselor 091714[...]
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Why Should Counselors be People of Holiness and Integrity?

 

Counselors in the USA are in the top three categories of professionals of those with a sex addiction.  The other two categories are gynecologists and pastors.

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Integrity 030306 .pdf
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Living Foundation Ministries

816-229-5000

 

Fax 816-229-5056    (please call number above to arrange fax)
611 NW R.D. Mize Rd
Blue Springs, MO 64014

 

 

We are located 3 blocks south (second traffic signal) of I-70 & Missouri 7 Highway (exit 20) in Blue Springs, MO in the eastern Kansas City Metroplex.  See map below. Click on the map to enlarge.

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04:00 pm - 07:00 pm

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